Do you want to use epoxy for your seams? Polyester resin works faster and is much easier to use and clean up. More fabricators use that than epoxy for a seam.
If I were doing a seam with epoxy I would use Instant Install. Since it dries so fast you are not waiting a couple of hours to finish your seams. Here is a link:
http://www.defusco.com/Glues:-Epoxy,-Polyester,-etc.-Epoxy-for-Natural-Stone/c82_500/p2423/INSTANT-INSTALL-29-MINUTE-EPOXY---32oz-KNIFE-GRADE/product_info.htmlRather than a toothpick (which will put holes into the seam prior to getting hard) why don't you dab it on with an artist's brush? I have heard of people doing this but I personally am not very artistic.
You can easily make the poly resin shine more by buffing it with extra fine steel wool. Both epoxy and poly resin may be top polishes ( if you know how to do that) to increase the gloss level.
More counters are adhered to the substrate with silicone caulk than with ANY glue. That is the preferred way to install a counter to the substrate.
Glad to be of service,
Mark